17 Signs A Coworker Is Attracted To You (Mutual Crush At Work)

Last updated on February 4th, 2024 at 06:06 am

Feeling like someone at work has a crush on you?

Possible that your male or female coworker likes you but is hiding it.

Maybe, being in a professional environment could be the reason.

Somehow, he/she seems to be interested in you, and you somewhat feel so.

But, you’re not sure. So, How would you figure that out?

Well, you take a look at common telltale signs that a coworker is attracted to you and has secret feelings for you.

As you go through this list, if you notice similar behaviors, count them as early signs of a crush at the workplace.


How Can You Tell If Someone Is Attracted To You At Work?

Behavioral signs and non-verbal clues are perfectly fine to check whether someone like your coworker likes you or not. 

But, a better way to find out the secrets that person is hiding, is to simply ask them. 

Yes, it is a daring and hard move, but if you want to skip the crush stage and give it some meaning straight up, it’s totally worth it. 

Especially if you are also attracted to this coworker, there is no point in continuing to play hide-and-seek anymore.

But, we also know you two are in a professional environment, and such daring moves are not your style. 

And a workplace is certainly not the right place for such a direct approach. 

So, the next better option is to go slow and keep developing chemistry, with the right move

To begin with, take a look at signs informing that your coworker likes you but is hiding it within. 

And that’s most probably because they’re too shy or value workplace boundaries. 


17 Signs a Coworker is Attracted to You (But, is Hiding It)

If you just feel one of your coworkers has a romantic interest in you, (and, you’re into them, but don’t want to embarrass yourself)… you need these signs. 

When most of these signs are present, it could be the start of an office romance.

1. A coworker adjusts his arrival and leaving time according to you.

One of the first things you notice is how you both arrive at the office at the same time and leave together while discussing today’s work and everything. 

That’s definitely not a coincidence, and you know it very well. 

When a coworker tries to develop a special connection with you, he/she be more presentable around you. 

Since they met you at work for the first time, your male or female coworkers have fallen for you.

And as regularly they get to see you, they feel attracted to you more and more.

And their next move is, to be more available and approachable to you. 

They change their schedule according to you just to have smaller elevator talk or chit-chat in a parking lot.

By doing so, your coworker tries to get closure to you.

Changing their own work schedule or parking his/her vehicle nearest to you, and seeking more opportunities to see or meet you are early crush signs that your coworker likes you and try to build a connection.  

signs a male coworker likes you but is hiding it

2. A coworker expresses their interest to know more about you.

Anytime you are with that person during the lunch break or at a random meeting, check:

Are they remain involved in their mobile or care to listen to you and have a good talk with you? 

You can say that person is really into you when they put their phone away just to talk with you. 

Asking too many questions about your life, weekend schedule, family, and relationship are enough to know that he/she has some interest to build a connection with you. 

When your coworker really likes you, your meetings will always be accidental. It’s no longer professional.

Plus, your connections stay dynamic and change as per the situation. 

Both of you are good employees who stay professional while discussing company growth aspects.

However, in your free time, you either exchange too much personal information. 

If your coworker is also eager to learn more about you as a person and not just as a colleague then signs that you and your male/female coworker share a mutual attraction at work. 

Check other: Signs A Guy Is Playing With Your Feelings

3. A coworker tries to be around you most of the time.

It’s common that when someone is attracted to others, they try to be more available around that person as a way to stay connected and be together. 

And to do that they will do anything possible at the moment. 

Do you find that your male or female co-worker asks for your help far too often, and only approaches you for help (Even for things they can do on their own)??

That’s also because they think of you as a kind and supportive colleague at work. 

But, it is sure though, when you notice that they ask only for your help and not anyone else around, then such are possible signs that a coworker is attracted to you.

signs he likes you but is hiding it at work

4. A coworker’s stare indicates that he/she secretly likes you.

The eyes are the direct reflection of what we are trying to hide in our hearts. 

The way people look at you and their approach to seeing you are enough to know whether someone likes you or literally hates you. 

Talking about the developing crush story at the work, you can see that a male or female coworker looks at you with that unique feel that you receive, when your eyes meet. 

Staring at you, and sneaking glances at you are their way of expressing their affection and liking for you. 

It is important to keep eye contact with your colleagues at the office. 

But the way this one coworker sees you is not something that you feel with anyone in the office. 

Moreover, if you accidentally catch them staring at you and which makes them uncomfortable, then it is one of the signs that a coworker likes you but is hiding it from you. 

Check other: Signs You Are About To Meet Your Soulmate

5. A coworker wants to stay connected with you.

At the office, there are so many people are there who work along, and definitely you have no active contact with everyone plus, not even know most colleague’s names, too.

It is simply because you do not have any active interaction with the majority of them. 

When there is a coworker who is either from your department or from another, approaching you on social media are possible signs that they have some serious interest in you.

And even after work, they may have been thinking about you. 

Well, it can be as part of their friendly nature because after all, you belong to one company. 

But, when they send you a regular message to talk about something after work or are interested to reply with a longer message then such are signs that a coworker is attracted to you. 

And if they don’t, then they tend to keep the conversation as short, as possible. That’s it. 

how to tell if coworker is attracted to you

6. A coworker makes a good effort to impress you.

Does that person look quite different from the last few days? Or have you started talking with them recently? 

Well, it can be you who makes them change their style and work upon themselves. 

It’s common that when someone has a crush on a person, they try to look attractive around that specific person.

With, hoping to catch their attention, simple as that.

From dressing sense to the way they come to the office or any sudden changes in them, mostly to their physical appearance are signs that your colleague is attracted to you. 

Doing so, they are basically trying to impress you, as well. 

All because of the recent talk you both had, which leaves a great first impression which will lead them to make a similar change in themselves to be likeable in your eyes. 

Check other: 12 Signs Your Interview Went Well

7. A coworker’s gesture is special, exciting, and sometimes nervous around you.

Through the way they interact with you and thus with others, you can learn a lot about a person. 

If you see that your male or female coworker is feeling nervous and uncomfortable around you, these are clear indications that inside they feel something special for you. 

Especially such behavior, you get to receive from a female coworker who finds you attractive. 

On the flip side, when a male coworker is attracted to you, they tend to be more available around you and try to be noticeable. 

A regular greeting without fail, maintaining eye contact for a few extra seconds, and care to know how your day at the job are enough signs that a male coworker likes you and actually is serious about you.  

Every person follows a different approach to their crush. 

Some feel confident enough to come forward and develop a connection, while some prefer to keep their distance and keep sending you hints to catch your attention.

If you notice them behaving normal and relaxed while with most other coworkers…. but not with you, then it is a clear sign that a coworker likes you but is hiding it.

8. A coworker appreciates you for every small detail.

Other than this, most of the crush at work signs are nonverbal clues you can check to see if your coworker likes you or not. 

But, when someone comes forward and clearly compliments you on your looks, personality, lifestyle, your work pattern, and performance, then they are clear signs that your boss or coworker feels attracted to you. 

Indeed, no matter how hard a person tries to hide their attraction to you, there will be one time when they can’t stop themselves from showing their genuine feeling for you. 

Especially when you two are alone during the coffee break or leaving the office together are the times when they share something which they find attractive in you. 

It seems they notice something special in you, admire you for the person you are, and take note of everything that you share about yourself. 

You need not worry at all as far as they behave professionally and take their time before expressing themselves. 

Check other: 22 Signs You’re In Love With Someone

9. A coworker mirrors your style and personality.

Intentionally or accidentally echoing what you like about crush is the most common thing.

It’s commonly found that when a person feels attracted to others, they start to take some reference from someone’s personality and normal behavior. 

Mirroring your actions, using the same catchphrase, or copying your talking style are enough indicators that someone at work has a crush on you and actually likes such special things about you. 

Did they start wearing blue more often after you told them you liked it?

Or do you catch them saying the word like you, even though you pronounce it differently than others? 

These are good signs that a coworker has feelings for you. 

Plus, he/she is learning about you and most of your actions and words.

As the result, sometimes they start to do the same use around you. 

Just to show that you two have some common interest to get closure and reason to stay along. 

10. A coworker chooses you, over anyone else.

Whether it’s about sitting next to you during the weekly meeting or forming a new group to work on the next project, he or she prefers you. 

Especially when a coworker picks you over other qualified colleagues, then they are indicators that you mean something to him or her.  

Well, it’s obviously because you are an excellent colleague and an expert in your field. 

However, it can also simply be one sign that your coworker is attracted to you as a crush or they trust you as a partner or both.  

Beyond the work purpose, this coworker looks more interested in staying connected to you outside the workplace.

Normally, they want to know what you’re doing on the weekend or after work. 

All is there just to get a chance to stay together with you and spend some good time that you both never get while working at the office. 

Combining such gestures and you can say that a male or female coworker likes you when they only prefer to spend time with you rather than anyone else in the office, including their office friends. 

Check other: 12 Signs A Man Is Emotionally Attached To You

11. A coworker and you both have a mutual bond.

So far you two have shared some good information about each other. 

In others’ eyes, you two seem like friendly coworkers who share mutual understanding and bonding to share office jokes or funny comments. 

But, inside you two know your bonding is more than that. 

You both respect each other, support when needed plus also share the inside jokes that no other coworkers have an idea about in the office.

Even further, you two have nicknames or code words for each other.

And if not then it’s probably for your bad boss to whom you both hate equally.

Such mutual understanding is a sign that you and your coworker like each other because you two spend a great time together and now feel compatible enough. 

signs of mutual attraction between coworkers

12. A coworker starts flirting with you.

Healthy flirting at the workplace is normal these days. 

But, when there is a special effort towards you from your male or female coworker like serious flirting, that means something is there. 

When a male coworker does this, they mostly do that by teasing you in a playful way or to make you feel entertained at work, especially around him. 

On the other hand, when a female coworker flirts with you, either she is trying to leave some hints for you. Because she wants you to notice that and approach her

No matter how long the two of you have worked together or whether you joined the company just a few weeks ago, you can feel that one coworker is trying to develop the relationship beyond the workplace. 

Such an attempt from her or soothing you around him, are powerful signs that a coworker loves you secretly and may be waiting for the right time to come.

Check other: 14 Signs You Are Going From ‘Best Friend to Lover’

13. A coworker who ignores everything just for you.

Ignore everything?? Yes, everything… even important projects plus ongoing work. 

Of course, the workplace is to work and work alone.

But, when office romance begins, it remains too different from other developing stories. 

If you need any help or want him/her to sit beside you for a while, he/she will not hesitate to stay with you even if he/she has to cover this time sitting extra hours in the office.

If you see that your coworker can literally ignore everything from urgent tasks to phone calls or even work when you need someone, these are signs that a coworker likes you but is hiding it. 

And if your coworker has no feelings for you, they’ve already got a great excuse like “too much work” or “I need to leave so early today.”. 

how to tell if a coworker likes you secretly

14. Other coworkers start teasing you saying, ‘You two look great together, Btw.’

It is no longer possible to keep secrets in the office. 

No matter whether you both coworkers feel mutually attracted to each other or it’s from one-sided attractions, there are also other people working under the same roof and feeling this tension. 

So even if you feel like no one is aware of such office crush stories between you then, you’re wrong

Anytime when you’re with your group, one of your mutual friends will admire your developing bonds plus how perfect you look together, more than a team. (But, as a partner!!)

Possible that a coworker who is attracted to you may have shared this with him/her or their office friends to find out because such a coworker never stops talking about you daily.

Plus, the way you behave with each other is also noticed by your coworkers at the same office, so don’t forget that. 

Overall, such are signs that you and your coworker are feeling attracted to each other. 

Check other: 9 Signs of Good TeamWork At Workplace

15. You feel sexual attraction around that colleague who secretly likes you.

You feel that your female coworker has some sort of crush on you.

Seeing their efforts to get you, you develop the same feelings as well.

Do you feel something every time your eyes meet? Does their touch electrify your desires?

Furthermore, when that colleague passes by you, you feel the sexual tension between you, both looking at each other secretly, smiling at the same time.

Well, both of you are aware of the special attraction for one another and contribute to this office crush story equally.

This is a sign that mutual attraction is developing between you two coworkers.

signs a coworker is sexually attracted to you

16. When your conversation is about everything except the work.

A colleague who likes you will never lose a single chance to be with you.

And, when they don’t get such chances, they will create them eventually. 

Perhaps in the office or the entire team, they only ask you for any advice and suggestions.

They treat you like there are no other employees in the office. 

You can see their efforts to improve the connection with you beyond the workplace connection. 

Asking personal questions to check your relationship status and your love interests are all signs a coworker is obsessed with you and has a secret crush on you.

Check other: 18 Signs You’ve A Cool and Calm Personality 

17. When your female coworker starts asking you more personal questions.

Have you noticed lately that she is more interested in your life than the project you work together on?

Have her questions shifted beyond project work and mostly towards your life and future plans?

Well, your colleague is developing a crush on you. 

Maybe she wants to come closer to you. It’s possible she fears losing you.

Therefore, if you’re considering leaving this job, she may also be ready to leave.

After work hours, she tries to stay connected and be around more than ever before.

In general, such behaviors are a sign that your female coworkers deeply love you and are afraid of losing you.

signs your coworker has feelings for you


What To Do When You Notice That Your Male or Female Coworker Likes You…

Well, we are sure that after referring to such signs now you have some good ideas about what your coworker is feeling for you. Or whether your coworkers like you or not?

And now, it’s your turn for a further move. 

Ask yourself, do you have the same feelings for him or her?

If yes, then that’s great because it proves that you and your coworkers have a mutual attraction. 

And if not sure about yourself, then apply the same coworker crush signs on yourself, too. 

See if you are showing the same gesture towards the coworker who likes you, that means you’re attracted to him or her, in the same way. 

Plus, it’s better if you never play such crush games anymore, even after noticing the mutual signs that a coworker is attracted to you, also. 

Simply take the first move, and let them know… you’re also feeling the same, as they do. 

Spend some time together, get to know each other, and develop some connections every day with small moves. Better not to rush.

Give each other enough time to learn about each other, at a personal level. 

After that… you better know what to do, Right?? 


Indeed, office romance will not be easy, but as far as there is a mutual attraction and feelings that you two coworkers share within, every challenge is worth taking upfront.