13 Warning Signs A Guy Is Playing You Over Text (Avoid Being His Toy)

Last updated on February 4th, 2024 at 06:23 am

You need to be aware of such early signs of a player to know that a guy is playing you.

Clearly, he’s not into a relationship like you are. 

Whether you’ve just started dating or it’s a long-term relationship, it’s all like a game to him.

Knowing such signs that a guy is playing you over text, will also spare you from giving any extra to relationships that will lead nowhere. And, you can get out it as early as possible. 

Avoid being used and toyed by such player(s).

Because, he might not be interested in you, but in something like your body or money or you’re just too good for someone.


How Do You Tell If A Guy Is Playing With Your Feelings?

That feeling of being fooled will be there, no matter whether it’s your third or fifth relationship or even if it’s the first time when you get into the relationship. 

But, simply drawn by the negative feelings and doubt that your partner is ‘a player’ is also not a good option, either. 

Especially when you have no clues, just guesses. 

Well, an important question to ask is how to tell whether someone is plotting against you or taking advantage of you. 

Plus, what are the signs to identify whether he is a player and not a keeper?

And the instant answer is his/her approach for you in certain times or events.

  • Is he being too about himself in the relationship? Or Does he care for your priorities, too?
  • Did he purposely or accidentally drop something hints for you? What causes you to think he might be a player?
  • What’s his reaction every time when you talk about your future together?
  • Does he ever invite you to meet his parents or introduce you to theirs?
  • Has he really apologized for his actions, or are there only excuses?

From the early stage look for such unusual signs from their behavior that know if a guy is playing you or really likes you and it’s you who doubts their feelings? 


13 Signs A Guy Is Playing You Over Text

Whether you’ve only met once at the bar and started dating, or have been chatting so far, sometimes you might feel that guy is not suitable for this relationship.

Maybe he’s not interested in a serious relationship.

But, he is just playing with you over text and using you as his toy. 

If you sense this, you need to check out such signs that give you enough proof that you’re dating a player and should move on ASAP.

1. He never shares too much about himself.

A player has a long record and experience from his past games.

Hence, they are smart, too, and never drop hints about any potential or existing targets of them. 

If you find that a guy always ignores the discussion about his past and previous relationship, that means he’s trying to hide something from you. 

He doesn’t want you to be aware of any things that reveal his true identity as ‘a player’. 

Such players will take all the information about you but aren’t as confident or excited for sharing something about themselves in return. 

Did he show you where he lives or anything where he works or studied, then such are signs that he is a player and already playing you. 

Because you’re already a part of his game way before. 

2. He doesn’t contribute to your conversation equally.

You can say that a guy is as dedicated and passionate about relationships as you when he will share the same enthusiasm for conversation as well.

From planning your next trip together to having a big dream in the future together, you can feel when a guy is really excited and has expectations, too. 

That is a sure sign that a guy takes relationships seriously and he’s a keeper not a player.

On the other hand when he constantly avoids talking about any plans or just ignores any discussion and these are signs that he’s playing you over text. 

It is clear that he has no idea where to lead this relationship, as his expectations or desires don’t align with yours, so he never shares them.

Such players are in the game (a relationship, here)… till they find their next target.

Check other: 12 Signs Someone Is Ghosting You

3. He wants you to keep your relationship a secret.

This one is quite definite signs that he’s really not into the relationship. 

A person who loves you and actually is serious about your relationship will never hesitate to express his love openly. 

However, a player keeps everything secret and even forces you to keep your relationship secret until he wants it. 

He never set up a meeting with his family nor he confidently admits publicly that ‘you two are in a relationship’.

Simply because you’re not. 

Even worst case… that a guy introduces you ‘as a friend’ to his circle. 

If you catch him telling wrong stories or lying about you to others even in front of you, then they are signs you have been played by him, of course. 

4. He never prioritizes you and treats you like an option.

You notice he contacts you when he needs something or when he’s alone or bored.

The majority of the time, he’s busy with his gangs or searching for the next target. 

But, when he has nothing to do with his free time, he calls you and asks you out. 

Seeing his approach toward you is enough to know he’s not treating you as a priority in his life, but having you as an option. 

Genuine guys will take time out of their busy schedules to reach out to you regularly. 

While players only reach out when they need something or don’t have any other options. 

Such inappropriate acts are signs a guy is playing you and does not have respect for you or what you do for him.

Check other: 11 Signs She Is Pretending To Love You

5. He is impatient like he’s planning to end the game fast.

A good relationship takes time, also because that is for a lifetime. 

It may not happen overnight but takes some significant time to build the connection and trust between the partners in the relationship. 

Whereas a player has no patience to go through the required phase. 

They are all interested to take advantage of the person who loves them, achieving what they intended to and leaving just before it is about to turn into a committed relationship. 

All because they’re more about themselves and do not respect others’ feelings, too.

After meeting their secret desires or realizing that there is nothing left for them, they simply move on to find their next targets. 

If you see that a guy is being too impatient or shares no reason to settle in a relationship, then these are signs that he is playing you for his own benefit.  

6. He just has an interest in you and not in your life.

A player has no feelings and does not even care to respect others, too.

All he wants from you is you and nothing else. 

He never asks about your family, friends, your life, or anything. 

Whereas a genuine guy asks you the right questions to make a healthy connection, a player respects nothing but his own desires. 

Not showing interest to meet your parents and family are clear signs that he’s not a keeper that you want to be with, because he’s just a player.

Check other: 12 Signs You Will Never Find Love In Life

7. He gives you excuses, but not a callback or text.

Every time you call him, he either doesn’t receive it or never bothers to call back. 

It seems he is busy somewhere doing something he doesn’t want you to know about.  

Of course, that can’t be true all the time. 

However, it is what happens when he is a player. 

Being busy and involved in some important work is okay. At least, a caring person takes some time to text that he will call soon. 

It seems that your guy is quite heavily busy and he doesn’t have enough time to text as well. 

But when he never cares to inform you where he is, avoids answering why he’s not picking the call, or even shows excuses when finally caught up, is one of the red signs that a guy is playing you over text. 

8. He uses your flaws and weaknesses against you.

If you’re dating a player, you shouldn’t expect anything good to happen to you. 

No matter what, they will hit you at your weakest point and keep you down at their level. 

Either way, they try to use your limitations or failures to take advantage of you.

Plus, they keep manipulating you to do something for them, as they want.

Ideally, relationships are to accept one another for what they are and become better together, even with any imperfections. 

That’s completely reversed when a guy is a player. 

It is definitely not acceptable when your private jokes or teasing become public, and it is clear that the guy is doing this intentionally. 

Beware of such warning signs as it proves that you have been played by a guy. 

Check other: 12 Signs You Are Not Likeable In Your Group

9. It’s your gut feelings that say, ‘He’s a Player’.

Well, you better not think about it from negative emotions or overthinking alone. 

Our gut feelings are something that might be true. 

As it’s trying to inform us before it is about to happen which is either right or not good enough for us.

Your gut feeling speaks to you when you notice something about a guy based on earlier conversations or any words he accidentally said. 

Instead of completely ignoring it, you better take a closer look at why you’re feeling this way and what’s the reason behind it. 

If you ever feel that you are being played and this guy is pretending to love you then such can be a sure sign that he is not a keeper, as chance. 

You better not take things lightly. But, act normal.  

Never ignore warning signs of a player that your gut feeling tries to be aware of. 

10. He is a master at manipulating.

A player is really well-prepared and carries backup all the time. 

Since they know what they did in the past, they have to be extra cautious and aware. 

Whether it is their personal story or a past relationship, they have unique stories to tell to anyone who asks. 

If anytime when a stranger girl or someone in a group mutual connection warned you about a guy and his playing skills, then you better not take this as jealousy. 

Who knows that person might be one of his victims and wants you to save from this Being played.

Discussing it with a player will not work because they’re great at playing mind games also display things as real as they want. 

Either way, he also advises you to disconnect from that caring person or made-up lies about that person, too. 

You better have valid proof before believing in any two of them. 

Check other:  7 Signs of Emotional Suffering Prove That Someone Is In Pain

11. He now wants you to move on and get over him.

There is nothing constant and exciting about playing a love game, especially for those who’re not seeing it as a game. 

A player will start ignoring you after achieving his desires and getting from you what he wanted, presumably as part of a break from the relationship. 

Once, he found that there is nothing left that he can take away from you, so now he feels bored and uninterested in you.

It is his way of informing you that this relationship isn’t working out. 

In this way, he starts acting strangely toward you and does not provide you with the regular time or support you are used to receiving from him.

A player always keeps his hands clean and takes every step carefully without any chance of being caught. 

Instead of that, he creates such a situation to let you do something that he wants. 

In a relationship when everything suddenly isn’t working out for him and he even tells you to find another partner because he isn’t good enough, these are all signs you have been played by a player guy.

Plus, this player is now all ready to set his next target. 

12. He texts, call, or contact you only when he’s free or bored.

When someone contacts you and shows up only when they need something, it’s clear that they’re using you.

So this guy you’ve been in a dating or long-term relationship with treats you like a toy. 

There’s no way he cares and respects you as every partner should.

Instead, he’s toying you, and he’s behaving like a mean friend. 

If you notice that he approaches you often but not regularly, that is a sign that a guy is playing you over text and has no purpose to have a relationship with you. 

Check other:  Signs Your Date Is A Terrible Communicator

13. He has no problem if you don’t talk to him every day.

Because he already has a lot of games going on and you’re his only toy. 

When two partners are in a relationship, they usually talk at least once a day. If not, then texting enough to stay in touch. 

However, he doesn’t care about such things. Neither does he care whether you talk regularly or not. 

Sometimes this player guy ghosts you, too but then he wants you, he comes to you as if nothing happened. 

Normally, your good morning to good night wishes goes unanswered.

You should be wary of such player guys because they not only play with your emotions, but they also make you feel as though you aren’t good enough.


Be Alert. There will be players whether you want to play or not.

Just because you don’t think about playing with others’ feelings doesn’t mean no one will do that to you. 

A person may look great at first and you two may seem compatible. But, as time goes on, you get the original identity of a two-faced person

But a player, however, will never let you know that you’re getting tricked by them. 

Thus, it’s good if you spot these warning signs of a player from someone you’ve just started dating. 

So that you can save your valuable time and true love for someone who actually deserves it, rather than just being played and used by such jerks. 


Trust your love, but also see if that person has the same respect and feelings for you or not.

And anytime you get even one or two signs that a guy is playing you, then better to get out of it rather than being used. Simply, stop giving too much of yourself to him.

Remember, your time, feelings, and love are precious. Please don’t waste it on someone who doesn’t understand its value.